As Catholic Christians we believe that God does more than bless the marriage. It is God who calls a man and a woman to each other in marriage. It is God, therefore, who makes the first move. He shares with us His love and life. It is because of God’s unbounded love for us that we learn to share this love with one another. God calls couples to a special love for each other and they share this love in lasting fidelity. We call this special union of loveMarriage.
We believe that Marriage is much more than a legal contract between a man and a woman. It entails more than rights and obligations; promises and commitments. Marriage is a sacrament. This means that God is made real and visible through marriage. The union of marriage reflects the union of Christ and the People of God, the Church. The love that Christ shares with all of us is thus reflected in and made visible through the union of husband and wife.
Our goal in offering preparation for marriage is to do whatever we can to help the engaged couple realize a wonderful, grace-filled and loving marriage, which will endure no mater what the future brings. This is a tall order! But it is a very necessary one not only for the couple seeking to celebrate the sacrament of marriage, but also for the whole church community.
All the guidelines and policies found within this booklet have been carefully developed to better ensure a truly beautiful and grace-filled wedding, and even more important, a blessed and happy marriage.
Marriage Preparation Process
Because preparation for a lifetime commitment in marriage is so important, the Diocese of San Bernardino asks couples to complete a marriage preparation program. The following steps must be taken:
1. The preparation process here at Holy Family begins with an initial questionnaire that is complete for the first meeting with the parish priest. Appointment Request for Marriage Form.
2. A Pre-Cana interview must be scheduled with the priests. At this appointment the priest will ask for all sacraments certificates, the most important being an updated Baptismal Certificate dated in the past six months.Please contact your baptismal church for a new copy of your baptismal certificate. A Wedding date will NOT be scheduled without a current copy of your Baptismal Certificate.
3. Priest will escort you to the secretary's office to book your wedding date. A $100.00 deposit will be required to reserve your date.
The remaining balance will be due a month before the wedding date. We recommend making monthly payments to ease the financial hardships.
4. Referral to Marriage Preparation Class.
Marriage Prep 101
We have a wonderful marriage preparation ministry here consisting of married couples. This is a five month preparation. The class meets once a month for five months at Holy Family Church. There is a fee for books and materials. These sessions are designed to help couples explore real life issues within a real life context. Your preparation couple not only facilitates these five sessions, but also accompanies you on the way to your marriage. They will help you in planning the wedding ceremony. For more information contact the Ministry Office 760-244-9180
Every couple is encouraged to do as much as they can to prepare themselves for marriage. Other processes available include professional marriage readiness evaluations; Engaged Encounter Weekend (951)-323-6840 or www.sbcee.com) and classes in Natural Family Planning (909-475-5351)